Understanding What Makes a Man Want to Walk Away…And What Makes Him Want to Stay
Last Saturday, my husband, Paul, and I spent most of the day outside dealing with “Leafmageddon”. It was time. Most of the trees have defoliated by now and what leaves hadn’t found their way to the pool were in huge piles at every entrance to our house, just waiting to get inside.
We were about 90% of the way done with the backyard when Paul announced that he was just about out of energy for the backyard and would be moving on to tackle the front momentarily.
“What? Noooo…are you sure we’re done?” I whined.
“Yeah, I’m done.”
“But, but, but Sweetie…I was going for more of an Al & Dian look.” (Al and Dian are the neighbors with the impeccable yard whom we aspire to be like one day.)
After a pause, he looked at me and said, “Hey, how come women get to have “Honey...
You’re Upset Because You Haven’t Heard From Him…Should You Pretend Everything is OK?
One reader has been feeling confused because she hasn’t heard from the guy she’s seeing who’s been out of the country on vacation for a month. She’s feeling disappointed and a little pissed because she thought they were really into each other and she had hoped he would find time to stay in touch. She’s not sure what to say when he calls.
To find your words, first start with finding your feelings. ALL of them.
Truth is, there can be lots of feelings happening all at the same time. We’re complex and that’s what makes us so wonderful! You could be feeling any emotion from terrible to elated and several in between.
Let’s approach this using an adaptation from some of Rori Raye’s wisdom.
Step 1: Tune into your feelings.
Ask yourself: How would it feel if he called?...
Has anyone ever told you that beauty is on the inside? My grandmother used to say, “pretty is as pretty does”…
So, I always thought that if I were kind, sweet, lovely (whatever that means), and generally self-sacrificing, that it meant I would be beautiful on the inside, and therefore, I would be beautiful on the outside. Sure, all of those are great qualities and truly becoming to a lady, but I found that just simply being all of that (and more) is not what makes a woman attractive and magnetic.
We all know at least one woman who seems to have that certain something — a sort of magnetism that just attracts people to her effortlessly. She isn’t always the most beautiful woman in the room. In fact, you may not even think she’s as pretty as you. Yet somehow she always seems to turn heads and draw attention. Why is that?
Or what about the gorgeous, perfectly put together woman who complains she can’t seem...
Does the Idea of Being Without Him Feel Impossible?
Occasionally, I am asked for help with healing and moving forward after an affair with a married man. I know from working closely with a number of women who have been in this situation that moving forward can be extremely painful and difficult.
In most cases, they didn’t set out to become involved, much less fall in love with married men. It just happened.
The story is different from one situation to the next, but the common theme I’ve noticed — the common ATTRACTION — is this: CHEMISTRY.
“I hate being vulnerable. I opened up to Michael precisely because the way he treated me from the beginning was completely different from what I ever had with with my husband. That’s the reason why I put caution to the wind even though I knew he was married… I just wanted to be around him even if it meant just sitting next to him while he was filling his paperwork in at a...
This post is inspired by a recent conversation I had with my 19-year-old son, Luke. He told me what makes a woman attractive, what makes a man fall in love, and why women get dumped so often.
ME: Tell me Luke…What is it about a woman that makes her attractive and irresistible?
LUKE: Well, I can tell you for sure what makes her UNATTRACTIVE. She could be the most beautiful woman in the world, but if she’s clingy and co-dependent it’s a no-go. Men — well, I can speak for myself anyway — are attracted to beautiful, confident, independent girls who are fun to be with, but have a life of their own, with their own goals. Autonomy.
“The perfect girl is like a BUTTERFLY.”
ME: Ooh…butterfly. I like that concept.
LUKE: Yeah, that one word says it all. Think about it… A butterfly is a beautiful, delicate, unique creature unlike any other in the world....
Have you ever experienced someone close to you in your life – that special friend or family member who brings out the absolute best in you when you’re together?
For example, you find that you are your wittiest self when this person is around and you have and endless array of inside jokes that just seem to flow in a constant supply?
Or perhaps you are your most creative self and your best work or best ideas come to you effortlessly when he or she is present?
This type of soul-mate experience happens when we are connected to another person such that we feel completely free to be ourselves – authentically.
Ever notice that when you’re with your “tribe” – those people in your life who are closest to you – it feels completely natural to be yourself?
When you’re with your tribe, you can speak your...
I see it happen all the time.
Here’s a simple “truth” about your man that he will never admit to you:
If he believes that men are falling all over themselves trying to be with you, he will instinctively step up to “win you” for himself.
However, if he believes he’s already won you, he might not feel much of an urgency to commit.
This is why it’s SO important to “up” your perceived value.
A man will claim that which he...
I truly believe this this is how the universe and everything in it was formed – as a thought that was conceived, spoken and nurtured into existence.
This is the “universal law” for creating the love life you want (and anything else for that matter). I know this is true from my own personal experience and it’s become my life’s work as a relationship coach to help you do the same.
I met my husband on Match using this principle (and a damn good profile!)… We were married just under one year later and are still quite blissfully so. I’m such a believer in this method for manifesting your soul mate that I really wanted to share it.
What you think about the most is what you manifest into your reality. When you imagine it with feeling, you imbue it with a...
Have you ever found yourself hopelessly attracted to an emotionally unavailable manor a man who wasn’t really there for you?
Did you wonder, “why can’t he just love me?” or “what’s wrong with me?”
Have you rejected men who adored you and would do anything to be with you?
If you answered yes to these questions, please keep reading to learn my 5 Steps to Receiving Love.
Through our past experience with disppointment, failure, humiliation, betrayal, lies, and heartbreak, we create an internal diaglog that we’re not fully conscious of. It’s like a defense mechanism meant to serve as a sort of buffer between us and future disappointment. It’s how we attempt to protect ourselves from future trauma.
We are constantly assessing and analyzing the people in our world that we know as well...