“Am I wrong to feel this way?”
Need to ask a question that I hope doesn’t put me in the “shallow” category.
A guy I’m dating doesn’t have a car. He sold it a few months ago because he retired and decided that he couldn’t afford to keep both his car and his motorcycle, and the motorcycle won out. However, I don’t feel good about getting serious with a man who doesn’t have a car. He asked me out for Friday night (in addition to Wednesday) night to go to a live talk show we both like. And just texted me back asking if he could come here on his cycle, and we could take my car over to the film studio from here. (He rented a car for our first date, and said he had no problem renting when he needed to.) By the way, he got another job after retiring from his old line of work because he wanted some additional income.
I want to be honest about my feelings about this, but am leaning towards agreeing to take my car Friday night so he doesn’t have to rent one, and then talking to him about it afterwards. What do you think?
No this does not put you in the “shallow” category. You are a goddess and we goddesses want what we want!
Just let him know how you feel about stuff without telling him what to do. Give him the chance to make you happy.
Try saying something like this:
“It feels a little weird to be the one driving on dates, and it doesn’t make sense for you to rent a car. I don’t want to be the one driving, and I don’t feel safe riding a motorcycle. What do you think?”
“I feel a little weird about dating a guy who doesn’t own a car. I don’t want to be the one driving on our dates, but I don’t want you to have to rent a car either. What should we do?”
Cry it out and let me know how it goes!
Love, Carrie xoxo