I truly believe this this is how the universe and everything in it was formed – as a thought that was conceived, spoken and nurtured into existence.
This is the “universal law” for creating the love life you want (and anything else for that matter). I know this is true from my own personal experience and it’s become my life’s work as a relationship coach to help you do the same.
I met my husband on Match using this principle (and a damn good profile!)… We were married just under one year later and are still quite blissfully so. I’m such a believer in this method for manifesting your soul mate that I really wanted to share it.
What you think about the most is what you manifest into your reality. When you imagine it with feeling, you imbue it with a...
Have you ever found yourself hopelessly attracted to an emotionally unavailable manor a man who wasn’t really there for you?
Did you wonder, “why can’t he just love me?” or “what’s wrong with me?”
Have you rejected men who adored you and would do anything to be with you?
If you answered yes to these questions, please keep reading to learn my 5 Steps to Receiving Love.
Through our past experience with disppointment, failure, humiliation, betrayal, lies, and heartbreak, we create an internal diaglog that we’re not fully conscious of. It’s like a defense mechanism meant to serve as a sort of buffer between us and future disappointment. It’s how we attempt to protect ourselves from future trauma.
We are constantly assessing and analyzing the people in our world that we know as well...
(Ladies, feel free to pass this little gold nugget along to the men in your lives!)
Dancing is the art of seduction – do it right, and you just might lead her sraight to the bedroom.
“So put on your red shoes…”
1. Women find men who not only will dance, but can lead, very sexy and appealing. (This holds true in life as well.) We’re naturally “wired” that way. When a man can take charge on the dance floor and lead us effortlessly, it can create intense and powerful attraction that stirs up our happy sexy endorphins.
2. Dancing is a great way to melt the ice with someone you’ve just met. You can skip the awkward small talk and get to know each other’s chemistry on the dance floor. The better your skills, the more at ease your partner will feel, which is very attractive to us ladies. Get good enough at dancing and you’ll have an...
Is He Mr. Right Or Just A Good Guy?
Have you ever dated a guy and noticed (almost) everything about him fit you perfectly, and thought…
”How can I make him realize that we’re so perfect for each other?”
Women sometimes have a tendency to idealize a man when we feel chemistry…such as the kind that’s sparked when he shows up with certain “Good Guy Traits” that trigger our feelings of attraction for him on a deeper level. Problem is, when our “good guy” radar kicks in, our better judgment intinct sometimes takes the back seat.
Good Guy Traits…
“He’s intelligent/intellectually stimulates me.”
“He’s a confident.”
“He’s fun and adventurous.”
Do you ever feel like you’re his last priority? Like everyone else in his life is more important, and you’re just an afterthought as he runs off to help this friend or spend time with that friend instead of spending time with you?
If this sounds familiar, here are 5 secrets about how men think and how to inspire a man to give you more of himself. More time, more affection, a deeper more intimate connection…
#1 – Be a warm, safe place for him.
He wants to be himself and be appreciated for who he is. He doesn’t want to have to worry about what you will think. He doesn’t want to be wrong, criticized, or judged. He doesn’t want to be seen as a disappointment or failure in your eyes. He wants to be with a woman with whom he feels comfortable to say whatever is on his mind, do what he likes, and know he has her approval.
#2 – Be a warm and soft place for him to land.
When He Stops Trying… DO THIS:
This is the 2nd part of an email I received from “Lauren”, who wanted help understanding what she was doing wrong with men.
In a recent post titled “Avoid This Common Pitfall in Dating and Inspire Him to Win You” I talked about how to keep from losing yourself and your identity when you become involved in a relationship.
Lauren wanted to know:
“Should I have no expectations? Be completely independent and close my heart so that I don’t get hurt again? But if I’m completely independent then what is the point of being in a relationship?”
Expectations can be tricky. Happiness starts with giving up the need to place expectations on others. Freedom is so much better!
Freeing your man from expectations allows him to show up however he chooses.
“The Magic of Appreciation”…and 5 Ways to Show It.
There’s no other feeling in the world like the feeling of being appreciated. Even for the mundane “everyday things” in life. Even for the things we’re “supposed to do”. When we feel appreciated we naturally want to do more — give more.
Being the “giving” energy partner in the relationship, men really thrive upon our appreciation. The more we appreciate them, the more they instinctively want to give. It’s in their nature to give to us.
And yet, so often we withhold our appreciation. Why do we do this?
Do we fall into a way of expectation or complacency?
Do we fear somehow that lavishing too much praise will make us weak and vulnerable?
Do we fail to see what we ought to appreciate because we are too focused on what we DON’T have, rather than what we should be thankful for?
Are we too busy criticizing him to appreciate him?
I’m an alluring woman sometimes asked by people what motivated me to become a relationship coach.
Well, besides the fact that I love coaching people and I’m fascinated with what makes relationships work between men and women, my biggest motivation was a deep personal desire to experience intimacy with a man in a way I had never experienced.
I knew I was the only one standing in the way of discovering that kind of connection with a man.
So I set out on a mission of self-discovery to learn how to achieve a true and lasting intimacy— a real connection — like I’d never had before.
When I first came across Rori Raye’s materials, I had been in a relationship with my now husband, Paul, for just a few months. Everything was going great with Paul! And I was really falling in love. Fast.
And as I began tumbling faster and farther down the hill that’s when my fears and insecurities started...
Why Men Pull Away
Here’s a question from “Lauren” about a common pattern that she keeps repeating that is keeping her from the love she wants.
Could you please help me understand what I’m doing wrong with men?
I think I’ve done the same thing with my boyfriend as with my ex: I jumped on their respective trains. I had expectations. With my ex, I abandoned my country, friends and family, my career, my hobbies and even my appearance. I feel I’ve done the same with my boyfriend. I wanted stuff from him and got really frustrated when he wasn’t delivering. So what do I do instead?
As women, when we fall in love, it feels natural to us to devote our entire lives to the relationship…sometimes to the point of losing ourselves. That’s where we can go wrong.
Instead of our steadfast devotion working to strengthen the relationship, it can actually work against us if we give up on the...
What To Do When You’re Not Sure if He’s Moved On or Still There…
Here’s an email (I shortened a little) from a woman who is struggling to understand if her relationship has ended with a man whom she feels is truly meant for her.
Is he working through his issues (and still loves her) or has he moved on?
Still no closure on my relationship and struggling to be happy and stay happy. I think about him every single day. It could be a song that reminds me of him, a movie, a thought, food or anything. I had a dream the other night about his daughter, and it seemed so real. The very next night I had a dream about him. So even though I try to move on and I am working on sending out good, positive vibes, I am somehow always brought back to thoughts of him, even in my subconscious which I can’t even control!
Sometimes I feel like I’ll get signs that we still have a chance and he just needs a little push and reassurance from me and to...