Does the Idea of Being Without Him Feel Impossible?
Occasionally, I am asked for help with healing and moving forward after an affair with a married man. I know from working closely with a number of women who have been in this situation that moving forward can be extremely painful and difficult.
In most cases, they didn’t set out to become involved, much less fall in love with married men. It just happened.
The story is different from one situation to the next, but the common theme I’ve noticed — the common ATTRACTION — is this: CHEMISTRY.
“I hate being vulnerable. I opened up to Michael precisely because the way he treated me from the beginning was completely different from what I ever had with with my husband. That’s the reason why I put caution to the wind even though I knew he was married… I just wanted to be around him even if it meant just sitting next to him while he was filling his paperwork in at a...
When He Stops Trying… DO THIS:
This is the 2nd part of an email I received from “Lauren”, who wanted help understanding what she was doing wrong with men.
In a recent post titled “Avoid This Common Pitfall in Dating and Inspire Him to Win You” I talked about how to keep from losing yourself and your identity when you become involved in a relationship.
Lauren wanted to know:
“Should I have no expectations? Be completely independent and close my heart so that I don’t get hurt again? But if I’m completely independent then what is the point of being in a relationship?”
Expectations can be tricky. Happiness starts with giving up the need to place expectations on others. Freedom is so much better!
Freeing your man from expectations allows him to show up however he chooses.
I love this article from my friend Raymmar Tirado and wanted to share it with you because it captures heartbreak from a man’s perspective.
Here, he describes what it was about this woman that made him feel so deeply connected to her.
Read the original article at Raymmar.com
by Raymmar Tirado
Have you ever met someone who just gets you… understands you… completes you?
Someone who, although you were in your darkest hour, made you feel like you were doing exactly what you were meant to do and being everything you were meant to be.
A person who free’d your heart from the shackles of shame and allowed you to begin living your life again. Someone who made you feel like you were in exactly the right place at exactly the right time and in that moment, nothing else mattered.
I can’t imagine it happens more than a few times through the course of our lives.
If we are lucky, we recognize the...
What To Do When You’re Afraid of Getting Hurt…Again
“I’m afraid of getting hurt. I was once hurt by someone who made me think he was crazy in love with me only to watch it disappear suddenly out of nowhere. It was so painful to go through because I never saw it coming, but I’m actually thankful that it ended because he was all wrong for me and I would have never met the guy I’m with now.
My dilemma is that I love how I’m feeling about this new guy. Everything seems so perfect! But I find myself feeling scared and vulnerable. We’ve only been dating for 3 months. I can’t just shut my feelings off if he decides he’s suddenly not interested. I don’t know if I could take another heart break like the one before. My heart broke into a million pieces!
How do I let go of my fear and let love in? I really want to move on and experience love,...
“I’m not having any luck at all with any of these online dating sites. I give up! All the good men are either taken or gay. All the men I find on these sites are players, jerks, or just defective in some way.”
Sound familiar? Believe me, I understand. I’ve been there too. But the truth is, there are hundreds, if not thousands of wonderful men out there waiting to meet a woman just like you that they can fall in love with.
Believe it or not, most men actually WANT to be married.
Who is Mr. Wonderful looking for? He wants to find the woman who makes him feel totally accepted for who he is, not who she can change him to be. He wants to feel appreciated by his woman. And he wants to fall in love with a feminine energy woman who really loves herself (like the goddess that she is) and knows how to express herself.
Thankfully, I discovered the elements and tools that can make anyone succeed at finding love...