Understanding What Makes a Man Want to Walk Away…And What Makes Him Want to Stay
Last Saturday, my husband, Paul, and I spent most of the day outside dealing with “Leafmageddon”. It was time. Most of the trees have defoliated by now and what leaves hadn’t found their way to the pool were in huge piles at every entrance to our house, just waiting to get inside.
We were about 90% of the way done with the backyard when Paul announced that he was just about out of energy for the backyard and would be moving on to tackle the front momentarily.
“What? Noooo…are you sure we’re done?” I whined.
“Yeah, I’m done.”
“But, but, but Sweetie…I was going for more of an Al & Dian look.” (Al and Dian are the neighbors with the impeccable yard whom we aspire to be like one day.)
After a pause, he looked at me and said, “Hey, how come women get to have “Honey...
Does the Idea of Being Without Him Feel Impossible?
Occasionally, I am asked for help with healing and moving forward after an affair with a married man. I know from working closely with a number of women who have been in this situation that moving forward can be extremely painful and difficult.
In most cases, they didn’t set out to become involved, much less fall in love with married men. It just happened.
The story is different from one situation to the next, but the common theme I’ve noticed — the common ATTRACTION — is this: CHEMISTRY.
“I hate being vulnerable. I opened up to Michael precisely because the way he treated me from the beginning was completely different from what I ever had with with my husband. That’s the reason why I put caution to the wind even though I knew he was married… I just wanted to be around him even if it meant just sitting next to him while he was filling his paperwork in at a...
When He Stops Trying… DO THIS:
This is the 2nd part of an email I received from “Lauren”, who wanted help understanding what she was doing wrong with men.
In a recent post titled “Avoid This Common Pitfall in Dating and Inspire Him to Win You” I talked about how to keep from losing yourself and your identity when you become involved in a relationship.
Lauren wanted to know:
“Should I have no expectations? Be completely independent and close my heart so that I don’t get hurt again? But if I’m completely independent then what is the point of being in a relationship?”
Expectations can be tricky. Happiness starts with giving up the need to place expectations on others. Freedom is so much better!
Freeing your man from expectations allows him to show up however he chooses.
“I’m not having any luck at all with any of these online dating sites. I give up! All the good men are either taken or gay. All the men I find on these sites are players, jerks, or just defective in some way.”
Sound familiar? Believe me, I understand. I’ve been there too. But the truth is, there are hundreds, if not thousands of wonderful men out there waiting to meet a woman just like you that they can fall in love with.
Believe it or not, most men actually WANT to be married.
Who is Mr. Wonderful looking for? He wants to find the woman who makes him feel totally accepted for who he is, not who she can change him to be. He wants to feel appreciated by his woman. And he wants to fall in love with a feminine energy woman who really loves herself (like the goddess that she is) and knows how to express herself.
Thankfully, I discovered the elements and tools that can make anyone succeed at finding love...