I was recently contacted by a woman who was terribly upset because her man had just told her he loved her but didn’t always feel attracted to her.
My heart sank for her because I know what it feels like to hear those words.
The sting of those words wasn’t lessened by the fact that he was openly sharing about a conversation he’d had the prior evening with an old long-lost lady pal.
As we began to peel back the layers of what happened, I could hear right away that he was a mature, thoughtful and loving partner, and that their relationship was clearly based on openness and honesty. No matter to her, because hearing those words felt like a dagger through her heart and her most sacred dream – to be truly loved.
All she could hear was “I’m unlovable…No one will ever marry me.”
In fact, she was so focused on his “sometimes I’m not attracted to you” comment that she almost entirely missed the ...