You’re Upset Because You Haven’t Heard From Him…Should You Pretend Everything is OK?
One reader has been feeling confused because she hasn’t heard from the guy she’s seeing who’s been out of the country on vacation for a month. She’s feeling disappointed and a little pissed because she thought they were really into each other and she had hoped he would find time to stay in touch. She’s not sure what to say when he calls.
To find your words, first start with finding your feelings. ALL of them.
Truth is, there can be lots of feelings happening all at the same time. We’re complex and that’s what makes us so wonderful! You could be feeling any emotion from terrible to elated and several in between.
Let’s approach this using an adaptation from some of Rori Raye’s wisdom.
Step 1: Tune into your feelings.
Ask yourself: How would it feel if he called?...
“Am I wrong to feel this way?”
Need to ask a question that I hope doesn’t put me in the “shallow” category.
A guy I’m dating doesn’t have a car. He sold it a few months ago because he retired and decided that he couldn’t afford to keep both his car and his motorcycle, and the motorcycle won out. However, I don’t feel good about getting serious with a man who doesn’t have a car. He asked me out for Friday night (in addition to Wednesday) night to go to a live talk show we both like. And just texted me back asking if he could come here on his cycle, and we could take my car over to the film studio from here. (He rented a car for our first date, and said he had no problem renting when he needed to.) By the way, he got another job after retiring from his old line of work because he wanted some additional income.
I want to be honest about my feelings about this, but am leaning...