Does the Idea of Being Without Him Feel Impossible?
Occasionally, I am asked for help with healing and moving forward after an affair with a married man. I know from working closely with a number of women who have been in this situation that moving forward can be extremely painful and difficult.
In most cases, they didn’t set out to become involved, much less fall in love with married men. It just happened.
The story is different from one situation to the next, but the common theme I’ve noticed — the common ATTRACTION — is this: CHEMISTRY.
“I hate being vulnerable. I opened up to Michael precisely because the way he treated me from the beginning was completely different from what I ever had with with my husband. That’s the reason why I put caution to the wind even though I knew he was married… I just wanted to be around him even if it meant just sitting next to him while he was filling his paperwork in at a...
Do you ever feel like you’re his last priority? Like everyone else in his life is more important, and you’re just an afterthought as he runs off to help this friend or spend time with that friend instead of spending time with you?
If this sounds familiar, here are 5 secrets about how men think and how to inspire a man to give you more of himself. More time, more affection, a deeper more intimate connection…
#1 – Be a warm, safe place for him.
He wants to be himself and be appreciated for who he is. He doesn’t want to have to worry about what you will think. He doesn’t want to be wrong, criticized, or judged. He doesn’t want to be seen as a disappointment or failure in your eyes. He wants to be with a woman with whom he feels comfortable to say whatever is on his mind, do what he likes, and know he has her approval.
#2 – Be a warm and soft place for him to land.
I’m an alluring woman sometimes asked by people what motivated me to become a relationship coach.
Well, besides the fact that I love coaching people and I’m fascinated with what makes relationships work between men and women, my biggest motivation was a deep personal desire to experience intimacy with a man in a way I had never experienced.
I knew I was the only one standing in the way of discovering that kind of connection with a man.
So I set out on a mission of self-discovery to learn how to achieve a true and lasting intimacy— a real connection — like I’d never had before.
When I first came across Rori Raye’s materials, I had been in a relationship with my now husband, Paul, for just a few months. Everything was going great with Paul! And I was really falling in love. Fast.
And as I began tumbling faster and farther down the hill that’s when my fears and insecurities started...
Here’s a letter from Candace who is struggling with something many of us can identify with. She wants to know how to save her marriage and get her husband to be attracted to her again:
“I’m so fed up with my husband. I can’t seem to get through to him. Every time I try to talk to him about our marriage, he doesn’t listen to me, and he doesn’t seem to care. I’m so tired of being the only one making the effort. I’m tired of being disrespected. He doesn’t seem to want me or even want to be around me anymore. He doesn’t seem to be attracted to me, even though I do everything I can to take care of myself. I think I look great for my age. I think I look better than most women my age. I think other men think so, too. But he doesn’t even seem to notice.
I’m worried because I think he may be considering leaving me. It feels like he’s...