This post is inspired by a recent conversation I had with my 19-year-old son, Luke. He told me what makes a woman attractive, what makes a man fall in love, and why women get dumped so often.
ME: Tell me Luke…What is it about a woman that makes her attractive and irresistible?
LUKE: Well, I can tell you for sure what makes her UNATTRACTIVE. She could be the most beautiful woman in the world, but if she’s clingy and co-dependent it’s a no-go. Men — well, I can speak for myself anyway — are attracted to beautiful, confident, independent girls who are fun to be with, but have a life of their own, with their own goals. Autonomy.
“The perfect girl is like a BUTTERFLY.”
ME: Ooh…butterfly. I like that concept.
LUKE: Yeah, that one word says it all. Think about it… A butterfly is a beautiful, delicate, unique creature unlike any other in the world....
Why Men Pull Away
Here’s a question from “Lauren” about a common pattern that she keeps repeating that is keeping her from the love she wants.
Could you please help me understand what I’m doing wrong with men?
I think I’ve done the same thing with my boyfriend as with my ex: I jumped on their respective trains. I had expectations. With my ex, I abandoned my country, friends and family, my career, my hobbies and even my appearance. I feel I’ve done the same with my boyfriend. I wanted stuff from him and got really frustrated when he wasn’t delivering. So what do I do instead?
As women, when we fall in love, it feels natural to us to devote our entire lives to the relationship…sometimes to the point of losing ourselves. That’s where we can go wrong.
Instead of our steadfast devotion working to strengthen the relationship, it can actually work against us if we give up on the...
Understanding HIS Timeline Vs. YOUR Timeline
Have you ever been dating a guy and you thought things were going really great, but then suddenly he pulled away after a few days, weeks or months?
It seemed like one minute the two of you were falling blissfully head over heels, and then then next thing you know, it’s all over and you have no idea why.
You may have even experienced a situation with a man where you thought for sure that the two of you had a powerful soul connection and then out of nowhere, he just ended it.
Has anything like this ever happened to you?
Well, if you’re anything like me, then you know exactly what I’m talking about. And you know how devastatingly awful it feels. It’s so confusing!
And if this has happened to you before, chances are you may have even stepped away from trusting yourself…then out the door goes your authenticity. It’s like you’re afraid to be yourself and really let a man get...
“I’m not having any luck at all with any of these online dating sites. I give up! All the good men are either taken or gay. All the men I find on these sites are players, jerks, or just defective in some way.”
Sound familiar? Believe me, I understand. I’ve been there too. But the truth is, there are hundreds, if not thousands of wonderful men out there waiting to meet a woman just like you that they can fall in love with.
Believe it or not, most men actually WANT to be married.
Who is Mr. Wonderful looking for? He wants to find the woman who makes him feel totally accepted for who he is, not who she can change him to be. He wants to feel appreciated by his woman. And he wants to fall in love with a feminine energy woman who really loves herself (like the goddess that she is) and knows how to express herself.
Thankfully, I discovered the elements and tools that can make anyone succeed at finding love...